The Game of Desire

A certified sex educator and intimacy expert shows women how to gain control of their love life and find the relationship they want in this modern guide. "Boodram's brand of relationship advice . . . focuses on empowering single women with the tools they need to succeed in the digital dating era." —Refinery29 We all have that friend . . . the one who wants to capture hearts in real life and online without breaking her own. The one who can't seem to overcome ghosting, orbiting and flaking. The one who wants to inspire like Oprah and seduce like a stripper. The one who looks for love and loses herself. You might have that friend (or be that friend), but congratulations—you have found the solution. The Game of Desire will teach you the self- and social awareness to make dating your new favorite hobby. The truth is that we live in a world where dissatisfaction and disenchantment with dating aren't just normal—they're expected. Sexologist and intimacy expert Shan Boodram has analyzed the competitive dating landscape as well as the common pitfalls women face in the pursuit of passion and has developed a five-phase strategy to help down-on-love daters achieve romantic success. Testing out this strategy is a group of chronically single women eager to learn how to attract, approach and seduce any partners they desire. By challenging this group to empower themselves through identifying and tackling bad habits, and by debunking dating myths through real-life experiments, Boodram empowers you to take control of your love story and to manifest the life you know you are meant to live. Featuring exclusive workshops from a range of experts, surprising techniques and revelations on why good intentions just aren't good enough anymore—this book will inspire you to give your best self a chance to come out and play to win. Hilarious, poignant and insightful,  The Game of Desire is a must for everyone tired of the new normal. "In a world thought to be run by males, sexologist Shan Boodram levels the dating playing field for all sexes with her educated dissection of the human mind, emotions, dating and sex." —Winnie Harlow, supermodel "For  The Game of Desire, a new self-help dating guide from Shan Boodram, the sexologist enlisted five women for a romance boot camp, designed to teach them to flirt better, identify matches and communicate with purpose . . . the bulk of her advice is sound: learn what you want and create the circumstances to get it." — TIME magazine